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 	I know this is not the place to be posting this, but I don't
know where else to turn.  My name is Kevin Sterner, and I am from PA.
I have a problem and can't get any answers:
	I had been married for two years in May, and have a daughter who was
born in February.  In April I found out that my wife had slept with my
best friend.  His wife, whom he had just left, along with two
children, told me about what she saw in her apartment one time.
	My wife, best friend, and his wife all worked second shift, and I work
first shift.  One afternoon while I was at work and my wife was at
their apt., my best friends wife went to take her shower for work.
She had a strange feeling and left the water run, but peeked out
around the corner.  She saw my wife riding her husband on the sofa.
She closed the door and sat for a while.  When she turned the water
off and came out, they acted as though everything was fine.
	After my wife had left, she confronted him with this, and he denied
it.  She didn't pursue it further for the sake of the children.
	I confronted my wife with this, and she admitted to it.  She also told
me of several other times that they were togther.  These times spanned
more than a year.  The last time this happened was Feb. 23 and my
daughter was born on the 25th.  
	I went to work the next day, and all I could think about was what they
had done.  The following day I told her that I could not forgive or
forget this and I wanted a divorce.
	Things went along OK for a while.  Then she decided to take me to
Domestic Relations, requesting full custody of our daughter.  I
retained an attorny and managed to get shared legal and physical
custody.  I have my daughter for 5 days every other week.  She would
not accept 50/50 and I was advised not to press it further at that
time.
	I live in the marital home and she went home to her parents house.
She works at a hotel as the second shift front desk manager, and I am
the asst. plant eng. for a local food manufacturer.
	She took almost everything from the house, and left me with all the
bills.  Now she wants more from the house, child support, alimony(temp
and perm), me to pay for all of her legal expenses, and health
insurance.
	I wonder if I am the father of the child, and Domestic Relations says
that I can't find out, and if I did it wouldn't affect anything.
Reason being, the child was born in wedlock and is presumed by law to
be the husband's child.
	I am disgusted to find that I can, and probably will, be required to
pay her alimony, legal fees, and child support.  Now don't get me
wrong, I agree with child support, but she is asking for the maximum
the law will allow.  I make considerably  more than she does, and with
child support, alimony, and legal fees, she stands to recieve almost
half of my income.
	I cannot afford to live on half of what I make.  From what I
understand, there isn't a lot I can do about it.  After what she has
done to me, now this!!
	Nobody seems to be able to help me.  That is why I am posting this
article.  If you can help me, with past exp. or advise, please Email
me at: kwster@mindspring.com.


	Thanx in advance,
	Kevin