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Kevin Sterner wrote:
> 
>         I know this is not the place to be posting this, but I don't
> know where else to turn.  My name is Kevin Sterner, and I am from PA.
> I have a problem and can't get any answers:
>         I had been married for two years in May, and have a daughter who was
> born in February.  In April I found out that my wife had slept with my
> best friend.  His wife, whom he had just left, along with two
> children, told me about what she saw in her apartment one time.
>         My wife, best friend, and his wife all worked second shift, and I work
> first shift.  One afternoon while I was at work and my wife was at
> their apt., my best friends wife went to take her shower for work.
> She had a strange feeling and left the water run, but peeked out
> around the corner.  She saw my wife riding her husband on the sofa.
> She closed the door and sat for a while.  When she turned the water
> off and came out, they acted as though everything was fine.
>         After my wife had left, she confronted him with this, and he denied
> it.  She didn't pursue it further for the sake of the children.
>         I confronted my wife with this, and she admitted to it.  She also told
> me of several other times that they were togther.  These times spanned
> more than a year.  The last time this happened was Feb. 23 and my
> daughter was born on the 25th.
>         I went to work the next day, and all I could think about was what they
> had done.  The following day I told her that I could not forgive or
> forget this and I wanted a divorce.
>         Things went along OK for a while.  Then she decided to take me to
> Domestic Relations, requesting full custody of our daughter.  I
> retained an attorny and managed to get shared legal and physical
> custody.  I have my daughter for 5 days every other week.  She would
> not accept 50/50 and I was advised not to press it further at that
> time.
>         I live in the marital home and she went home to her parents house.
> She works at a hotel as the second shift front desk manager, and I am
> the asst. plant eng. for a local food manufacturer.
>         She took almost everything from the house, and left me with all the
> bills.  Now she wants more from the house, child support, alimony(temp
> and perm), me to pay for all of her legal expenses, and health
> insurance.
>         I wonder if I am the father of the child, and Domestic Relations says
> that I can't find out, and if I did it wouldn't affect anything.
> Reason being, the child was born in wedlock and is presumed by law to
> be the husband's child.
>         I am disgusted to find that I can, and probably will, be required to
> pay her alimony, legal fees, and child support.  Now don't get me
> wrong, I agree with child support, but she is asking for the maximum
> the law will allow.  I make considerably  more than she does, and with
> child support, alimony, and legal fees, she stands to recieve almost
> half of my income.
>         I cannot afford to live on half of what I make.  From what I
> understand, there isn't a lot I can do about it.  After what she has
> done to me, now this!!
>         Nobody seems to be able to help me.  That is why I am posting this
> article.  If you can help me, with past exp. or advise, please Email
> me at: kwster@mindspring.com.
> 
>         Thanx in advance,
>         Kevin

Hi kevin,

Please try to calm dowm for a while, and then, you could find the
totally different situation you have to face to.  Believe me, I just got
through all of the unhappiness about unsuccessful marriage.

Hope it helps,

Your friend,  lisa




Hope it helps.