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Hello, all! I've never visited nor posted to this newsgroup, so please bear
with me and read on.

My name is Dave, and I'll be turning 25 years old on August 6th. I haven't
had a relationship in about 3 years. In early June (7th, to be exact), I
asked out a 25-year old girl from my workplace, who I've worked with since
January. A month has now passed since I asked her out. We've gotten along
well and we've seen each other almost every day. These are my likes/dislikes
about my new friend:

LIKES:
    Generous, very attractive, warm touch
    Plenty of things in common with me
DISLIKES:
    Smoker, a bit overweight, tends to cuss a lot
    She has an average amount of gay friends, which I tend to avoid
    Her past involved drug use and fights in school (just in the past)

When I was single, I was lonely, but still happy most of the time. Since I
met my new female companion, I've been depressed, mostly because I think
about her all the time, and I miss her when she's away (I know I can't be
with her 24/7). Another reason I get depressed is because I worry about her;
I get paranoid of negative things that might happen in our "relationship".
I'm afraid of screwing up. I worry because previous women I've dated have
all been dishonest, mind-gaming flakes. So far, this girl has been 100%
faithful to me.

I get nervous sometimes when I see her at work, because we seem like
strangers. This is the same girl I stayed up with late last night, cuddling
in front of the TV. Don't get me wrong - I have no problem conducting myself
in a workplace environment. This is not the issue.

When people ask me about "me & her", I don't know what to tell them. I don't
know whether we're "seeing each other", "going out", "dating", or "boyfriend
& girlfriend". I want to take this slow because I've learned lessons from
failed relationships in the past. My girl[friend] seems comfortable with our
pace after the past month...but when are we to "move up to the next level"?
I've mentioned to her once that "I would like to call her my girlfriend" one
day...she told me that it takes patience.

The final questions remain:
1) I was happy when I was single, but I'm depressed and worrysome when I
have a girl[friend]. Is this normal?

2) My birthday is August 6th, which is when I plan to once again mention a
possible relationship with her. It will be a few months we've been dating.
Is this a good idea?

3) Can I insist on seeing her every day, although she hasn't specifically
asked for space?

4) When is the right time to ask to kiss her?

5) When is it a good time to sit down and cuddle, and when is it a time to
get up and go out?

6) When's the right time to say "I love you"?

7) What is a tactful way to ask her to become my girlfriend?

8) What's an inappropriate male/female conversation piece after dating a
month?

9) Is missing her and thinking about her constantly a serious mental
problem? How in the world do I occupy myself when she's not around?

I apologize for the length of this message, and if some of the questions
seem vague. Any thoughts & response on this post are very welcome! Please
respond to
    dgrundjr@earthlink.net

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David Grund Jr.
Home page: Dave's Ultimate Hangout
E-mail: dgrundjr@earthlink.net
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