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YAY! (s'cuse me... childinside me is prone to spontaneous cheering :)

damesd wrote in message <38989455_1@news.nni.com>...
>Re:  ASL
>what do we get from an ASL?  It gives us a box to put people in.  If we >know
their age, sex and location, we tend to make judgements about >who they are.

so very true from my experience... my first experien ce on the net is still my
most memorable because if was in a chat room where asking a/s/l questions was
not the norm... we'd laugh and make up all sorts of odd combinations depending
on our moods... most of the time we related age to our momentary mental or
emotional age... and sex often got "yes" or "no" or "why?" or other answers...
and location was where creativity really flew around... from in your computer to
behind you to right at the second star and straight on through till morning...
when I got serious, I was usually 4/toon/here :)

>Just like "nice guys" make judgements about traditionally physically
>handsome guys.  Just like jilted lovers make judgements about the >reasons they
were dumped.  Maybe it's hard to face the truth about >yourself.  Maybe you're
not so nice and not so good looking so you >loose on both counts and that's hard
to face.  It's not such a >dichotomous thing.  Anyone can possess any number of
traits.  It's >how you feel when you are with them and that doesn't come from
them >as much as it comes from you.  Sorry to run on.

this sort of running on has my respect... too many people in this world don't
care enough to really get to know each other... maybe it's just laziness or
fear, but the norm seems to be to seek an easy label or box to identify
others... used to bug me, especially when someone uses their prejudice to assume
they know another and address the other based on their assumptions... or when
the telephone game begins and prejudices are passed around as if they were
facts... but as I've grown I find more amusement than irritation in the
deliberate ignorances of strangers... and I focus my time and energy ourside of
the boxes :)

>The point is we can only work on ourselves, we can't change other >people.

and working on others is an easy way to avoid working on ourselves... a trap
I've fallen into myself in this life... so thanks for the reminder :)

honest love, ric

 "I've had my share of heartaches, misfortune and mistakes.
  occasionaly this life has left me battered,
  but I can't blame no one else, 'cause what I've done to myself
  is the only kind of history that matters"
                               ~ Harry Chapin ~






>Papilion <papilion@mindspring.com> wrote in message
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>> ASL......age, sex and location