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Hans Kamp wrote in message <937741733.947557@tbird.introweb.nl>...
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>No Name <nikhil@ihug.co.nz> schreef in berichtnieuws
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>> The truth is that you won't know why she was looking at you, unless you
do
>> something simple to test it. When someone looks at me for prolonged
>periods
>> of time.. with a neutral face... I just give them a huge smile.. it
always
>> throws them off.
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>You mean an artificial or an exaggerated smile?

A genuine smile ofcourse. If you're interested in the person, a genuine
smile should naturally.. no? Well, it does to me anyway. Besides... people
should smile at one another anyway.. it doesn't take much and often it makes
the recipient feel quite good. Smiles are so incredibly attractive,.. they
just exude confidence and happiness. You don't have to be really chipper...
but a nice smile definitely shows people that you're comfortable to be with.
I think it also has to be part of your nature.. but people DO learn to smile
and love it.

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>Some weeks ago I was at a pub. A girl was looking at me very often. I
>sometimes looked at her, but she very, irritatingly often looked at me. I
>thought: "Let me please her, and look at her." She give me an artificial
>smile, and I got angry. But I didn't show her my anger, but I try to
>completely ignore her. After that she continues looking at me and talking,
>and also her male friends began to look at me. But that looking has nothing
>to do with being interested... I think they are gossiping about me, or
>telling stinking jokes. Until I type this, I tried to forget that whole
>group.
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>But I think that I will hurt people that are genuinely interested in me.

WHy do you say that? It doesn't have be a HUGE smile.. you can just give her
a hint of a smile, that's enough to show someone that you're interested..
the key is being subtle.
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>In my youth I discovered that it filters out everyone. First: they try to
>make eye-contact wit me. Second: I want to be friendly and smile back.
>Third: they bully me, because I showed them my genuine interest.

Hmmm.. that hasn't been my experience. Do you think its different because
I'm a woman, probably is. Again, I think its because people have lost the
importance of smiling. Its just one of those things that can make others
feel good, and you too. Unfortunately, sometimes people think that when you
smile at them that you're mocking them. ... and that may not be the case at
all.
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>Well... I think they are messing with me.

I'm sure some people ARE like that... but it never crosses my mind when I
smile at someone.
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Sonia

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