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Hans,

You might be surprised to know that this young woman was probably feeling
exactly the same way you were.  She found you attractive but couldn't read
your body language as to what you were feeling about her.  And so, she kept
her face neutral in order to protect her pride and as a result of shyness.

I think for both groups, Autistics and for NTs, life has a lot of near
misses.  :o)

Fargo

Hans Kamp <hanskamp@introweb.nl> wrote in message
news:937592853.604647@tbird.introweb.nl...
> I was at the railway station and I was looking for a seat to wait for the
> train. There was no seat without a women, so I stand for a while (I am too
> shy to sit near a woman or girl, unless it is a very little girl). I
> overcame my shyness and I sat down on a seat with a young pretty
attractive
> women. I was reading something.
>
> The woman right of me looked at me 6 or 7 times in just a few minutes that
I
> sat near her. I found her attractive so I looked at her, but no so often
> that she looked at me. The first few times that she looked at me, I looked
> away. The following times I keep on looking at her, but with the same face
> that she uses for looking at me. I tried to know what she is up to. What
> does she expect from me?
>
> If she looks at me, because of my attractiveness, it flatters me a bit.
But
> if it is because of my autism, of weird behaviour, I prefer her not to
look
> at me.
>
> Then the train is coming. I stood up, and she looked at me for several
> seconds... pretty long. She didn't smile or say "hello" and nor did I.
When
> a woman looks at me with a neutral face, I don't see a reason to smile at
> me. Maybe only if she is attractive. When she smiles at me, I will pretty
> often smile back, no matter whether she is attractive or not. When I know
> her, I will always smile back!
>
> Neutral faces start to irritate me, because I don't know why they want
from
> me. In fact I feel the same as what women feel, when male strangers look
at
> her.
>
> Hans Kamp.
>
>
>