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In article <2nsj1p$hno@crl2.crl.com>, dk@crl.com (David A. Kaye) writes:
|>Lucy James (lucy@netcom.com) wrote:
|>
|>: one of their quarterly block-parties.  My 22 year old son, a budding
|>[....]
|>: I met him at the gallery and he introduced me to the gallery owner
|>: 'I'd like you to meet my mom, Lucy...' I beamed with a big smile...
|>: From there it was taking lots of pictures of him and his work.
|>
|>I'm glad that he was able to introduce you the way you wanted.  But, 
|>looking back on it, was it fair to him?  After all, it was his day, not 
|>yours.  Just a little observation here, but you were his father, though 
|>you've changed.  He already had a mom.  I dunno, as I said I'm happy that 
|>things worked out, but I just get the feeling that you put him through 
|>something that maybe wasn't necessary.  Could you have introduced 
|>yourself as his "parent"?  

David,

Think about it for a second, how often is someone introduced as "parent". I
can't really think of a time I've heard it. It draws immediate attention to
that fact that there is something non-traditional about this situation.

Many TSs are faced with this situation. Sadly, many more are disowned by their
families and don't get the "pleasure" of this problem.

I like looking to successful lesbian parents for guidance on this. In many
lesbian couples there is one "biological" mom and another mom. Sometimes it's
"Mom and Mama", sometimes "Mama Jane and Mama Julie".

It sounds like Lucy left it up to her son and he choose what worked for him.
I hope he's proud of his new mom and not ashamed of her in anyway.

Lucy is a women with a child. In my book, that means she's a mom.

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