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In article 29021@morrow.stanford.edu, GC.TLR@forsythe.stanford.edu (TerreMoto) writes:
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>1. Describe yourself and leave the object of your desire to make
>up their mind whether or not they want to meet you. If the person
>who called me had listened to my somewhat boneheaded restrictions,
>I would be :-(.
>

I would agree with this generally but if there's something you 
absolutely DON'T want that is non-negotiable (such as smoking, 
religion, etc.) you should probably put it in so the respondee 
doesn't waste their time.

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>3. Be accurate or even exaggerate your imperfections. It is better
>to have someone be pleasantly surprised that you are not as bad as
>they feared than have them shocked at your less than show-case
>body/brain/car/job etc. Additionally, you might actually meet
>someone who accepts you for who you are- oh noooo.  ":/)
>

I agree with "be accurate" but I wouldn't go overboard on the 
imperfections -- you want them to have some motivation to call/write!

>4. Give your responder a chance. They probably spent between
>$2.50-4.00 calling you, so I believe it would be a little churlish
>not to at least take 'em out for coffee. What do you have to lose?
>

I don't agree with this.  One of the charms (to me) of personal ads
is that if someone responds who is a total twit and is unsuitable, I 
don't have to waste my time with them.  Plus, once you have coffee  
with someone, getting back to your car without further commitment is 
rather difficult sometimes!  Much kinder to reject someone by never 
getting back to them than doing it face to face. 

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