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In article <696244682.2@wyrm.rbbs-net.ORG> M..Stirner@f501.n914.z8.rbbs-net.ORG (M. Stirner) writes:
>
> ... On the other hand, what I was
> really thinking of was that quote from Edwin Newman to the effect that
> communication gaps are frequently a good thing as they help conceal the
> fact that folks who are getting along otherwise are actually violently
> incompatible.  This has been my experience, generally.

A lot of dealings (most, unfortunately?) between people these days are
for pragmatic reasons.  In those cases, being able to communicate
facilitatively without an emotional aspect is a good skill; detachment
is useful.  Getting into what's fundamentally different about you and
the other is rarely relavant or productive.  For me though, that
pragmatism doesn't extend to friends or romances.  What makes those
people special is that there's enough trust to eschew the detachment
and to risk hearing and expressing real feelings.  Not everyone can be
a friend.
-TW
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