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In article <1992Jan1.232007.9417@overload.lbl.gov> asya@ux5.lbl.gov (Asya Kamsky) writes:
>
>No, [receiving a backrub in exchange for $35 is] not the same [as receiving
>it from an intimate friend or lover], it's different and much better 
>in many ways.
>Physically it will be much *much* better, and emotionally you are not
>left wondering if a) the other person felt "obligated" to do it b) whether
>they expect this or something more back c) whether you will want to or
>be able to recipicate d) whether they just attributed more meaning to
>this back-rub than you did... etc, etc...
>
>You know what you are getting, and that feels good all in itself.

Two of the things that define intimacy are trust and fluid communication.
Fluid in that, if something needs to be said, it tends to be said directly yet
considerately, and is met with like attention.  By these measures, risks
a-d you describe are the result of head-trips, which ought to dissipate
in a really intimate relationship.  There, you know what you are getting, 
and it feels even better because it was freely and unconditionally given.

>
>Asya Kamsky	   e-mail: asya@ux5.lbl.gov                   Go Red Sox
>"She's making movies on location she don't know what it means"

What does this mean to you? (I know the song...)

Thanks,
-Tim








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