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LStev3234 wrote: <<Tang, the difficulty is to not take in all the wonderfulness
projected at you, nor all the hate projected at you, nor being ignored, nor being
lonely, nor being afraid, nor any of those things.  All those things can spoil
one's day(sooner or later), if one lets them.

Because anyone agrees with me, it does not mean I am right. Because anyone
disagrees with me, it does not mean I am wrong.  To feed on what everyone else
says is going to give one a bellyache, sooner or later.>>

Right, Linda.

It comes own to valuing oneself for oneself and not letting anyone else value one
for one.

If one values oneself for oneself, nobody else matters. Not that one ignores all
others, one still receives their input and feedback (how else could one live in
society?), but one does not let their input and feedback grab control of one and
be the master of one, so that one does not become a mere tool for others, at the
beck and call of their every whims.

On the contrary, one is self-sufficient and in control of oneself, and lives among
others but does not belong to them like a lapdog.

As you say: <<Because anyone agrees with me, it does not mean I am right. Because
anyone disagrees with me, it does not mean I am wrong.>> Common agreement --
consensus -- simply means that everybody is agreed, not that everybody is right.
It can well mean that everybody is agreed but wrong. Because anyone disagrees with
me, it does not mean I am wrong, it can mean that everybody is wrong but I'm
right.

The Law goes against the stream, not along with the stream.

Tang Huyen