🚀 go-pugleaf

Riot Nrrrd (piglet@panix.com) wrote:
: karenk@hprnd.rose.hp.com (Karen Kimball), while prying the lemmings from hir ankles, exclaimed:
: >	I do agree that marriage, and commitment to _stay_ married,
: >needs to regain value in our society, and that the lack of same is
: >a major contributor to a lot of our social ills.

: I get the feeling that you were trying to build consensus with the
: person to whom you were responding, and that's the real intent behind
: the quoted paragraph.  However, I think it came out really badly.

: Please enlighten me -- to exactly which social ills am I contributing
: by remaining unmarried?

	You're right! A badly ordered sentence that says something other
than what I meant.

	What I was trying to say is that the devaluation of marriage 
itself and of commitment to marriage are the contributors to social ills.
Mainly, when children are involved, lack of long-term commitment to a 
relationship (or a relationship that _feels_ to the kids like it's
impermanent) is a problem.

	If no kids are involved, it doesn't matter much to society what
you do although you may lose some benefits yourself, such as clear
legal rights with regard to your partner and shared property. Barbara
addressed the latter case very well, in saying that these things should
not really be marriage-dependent.
 
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Karen Kimball


I  = (NOT(speaking for HP))
HP = (NOT(speaking for me))

{Combine, parse, and apply DeMorgan's.}
{Lather, rinse, repeat.}