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>> calls to the victims home and leaving personal notes on the victims vehicles
>> while at work.  ...
>
>Never pick up the phone directly; get an answering machine.  Unplug the
>phone at night before you go to bed.  Get an unlisted phone number.
>
>Make sure your home/apartment is as secure as it can be.  Good locks.
>Keep the drapes closed in the daytime.  Keep the radio on during the
>day.  TV on at night.  Use electric timers.  You might want to get a
>dog.  A BIG dog.  I was even thinking you could keep the dog in the
>car while you're at work.  You'll need to keep the windows open for
>ventilation, etc., and visit the dog every hour for potty breaks, etc.
>Park your car out of the way of other cars so that if the dog takes
>a snap at someone out the window it would only be someone who was
>deliberately hanging around the car for a purpose and not someone
>getting into the car next to it!
>
>
I had a similar problem on a much smaller scale, I think. (I missed the
beginning of this thread.)  I got an answering machine.  It worked.  The
man who was calling me to give me threatening and obsene (sp?) messages
stopped calling.  Put a message on that sounds like more than one person
lives there.  Or have a male friend put the message on.

Get a dog.  I had one, and I took him with me everywhere.  He was still
a puppy, only weighed 45#, but he intimidated a lot of people.  Dogs
know if you are nervous because of people around you, and they know 
who it is that is making you nervous.  My dog is now 90#.  Nobody messes
with us.  I suppose someone with a gun could do us in, but that would
happen to a man or a group too.  

Dogs make a lot of noise.  I used to
have two labs, very sweet and friendly.  I always thought if something
came up, I would have to protect the dogs.  One night, a man stepped out
of the bushes in front of me and startled me.  Both of my dogs, who had
never growled before, went for him.  They didn't actually bite him, but
they really scared him and barked loudly.  I had to call them off.
 
Try the restraining order.  I wanted to get one when I was having
problems.  I knew who the man was, but I couldn't get any help until 
he actually did something physical to me.  Since that didn't happen, I
don't know how responsive the courts and police are.  I have heard that
in cases of domestic violence (from my friends) that often (but not
always) the cops are not responsive or helpful, especially to women.
I hope that is changing.  


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