🚀 go-pugleaf

i will not quote from the posts but i know what you are saying...my parents are
both gone...i have one brother who is 6 years older than i...both my parents
passed from cancer...my father first and then a few years later my mother....i
brought my mother home and hospice came in to help me....she had to go back to
the hospital and was there for 6 weeks...my brother talked me into putting her
in a nursing home...she chose one not far from my house so i wouldnt have to
travel far...it was terrible...i had to bathe her...feed her...give her
meds...and all of this for 4,000 a month....she begged me to bring her back
home....soooooooo....i told her i would get her out of there as soon as i
could...i called my brother and told him i was taking mom home....he said thats
fine on the phone...but later that evening he and my sil visited me....they
walked up onto my porch and set down and proceeded to tell me that i could
expect no help from them with mom....actually i had not asked them for help and
they didnt help the first time i took care of her....i dont know what it
is...and like you andrea...it seemed that my brother always took advantage of
my parents....always there with his hand out but when it was reversed he didnt
have time for it...its sad really...at least i got to spend my mothers last
days with her and he missed out....this is the reason that i have not spoken to
my brother in over 10 years...not because i needed his help but because my
mother needed him to be there ...just for emotional support.....ok theres my
rant for the day....these sort of posts always upset me because ive been there
and done that.....good luck andrea...i hope things get better for you
hon.....betts