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In article <01bbfddc$4439ed20$13f042ce@etherman.mdc.net>, 
etherman@mdc.net says...
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> 
> Bigus <bigus@ix.netcom.com> wrote in article
> <MPG.d3ca2866d86212098977f@nntp.ix.netcom.com>...
> > Every detail of your makeup can be considered either attractive, neutral 
> > or unnatractive (to any given person). Being tall and very skinny is 
> > probably not especialy attractive but probably not unattractive either. 
> > Few things all alone override everything else.
> > 
> > The point is, dont look at yourself and give up as soon as you find 
> > something that is not the way you would have it. You have many other 
> > things to work with, and probably some of them could use some work, so 
> > learn to use them.
> > 
> > John
> 
> I think it comes down to a matter of extremes.  Being too tall is going to
> be considered unattractive by your average woman.  Same with being too
> thin or too short.  Being in some extreme category is going to make things
> difficult, but probably not hopeless.  
> 
> For the guy who is too skinny you should try working out.  I personally
> tried but didn't have much success.  Maybe you'll have better luck.
> 

I cringe when I hear someone blaming their appearance for all their 
problems. I cringe even worse when someone feeds the flames with a 
sugestion of how to change their appearance.

A good workout program may help in this case, but then again it would 
probably help everyone. Being a bean pole, short, fat, or whatever is a 
fatal flaw only in ones own mind: a self percieved flaw acts as a 
lightning rod that protects us from seeing our other flaws or learning 
how to work around them.

Those who have been obese their entire lives are often suprised that 
changing their outward appearance does nothing to aleviate their personal 
and interpersonal problems. With the outside changed they are forced to 
examine their insides, which is often far more difficult to do. Tell a 
bean pole to work out and you divert his efforts into something far less 
lucrative.

When I was fat, everyone told me to loose weight, then I would have 
women. When I was skinny, everyone told me to work out, then I would have 
women. When I was buff, strangely enough, nothing. I was convinced that 
my hight was the one unchanging flaw that made me unatractive. Finally, a 
friend took me aside and told me the truth, I need to learn some social 
skills (not that I was rude or crude), learn to dress better (not that I 
was a slob), and learn to carry myself better (not that I was a slouch). 
I was not unnatractive, I was just not attractive: a zero. Fortunately 
this friend had learned the same lessons and passed them along to me. All 
the efforts I had put into changing my body amounted to nothing, while a 
few tiny changes to my behavior changed everything. I have been in better 
phisical shape, but I have never been called good looking untill 
recently.

John