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Bigus <bigus@ix.netcom.com> wrote in article
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> When I was fat, everyone told me to loose weight, then I would have 
> women. When I was skinny, everyone told me to work out, then I would have

> women. When I was buff, strangely enough, nothing. I was convinced that 
> my hight was the one unchanging flaw that made me unatractive. Finally, a

> friend took me aside and told me the truth, I need to learn some social 
> skills (not that I was rude or crude), learn to dress better (not that I 
> was a slob), and learn to carry myself better (not that I was a slouch). 
> I was not unnatractive, I was just not attractive: a zero. Fortunately 
> this friend had learned the same lessons and passed them along to me. All

> the efforts I had put into changing my body amounted to nothing, while a 
> few tiny changes to my behavior changed everything. I have been in better

> phisical shape, but I have never been called good looking untill 
> recently.
> 
> John
>
Hello, John. I appreciate your insight into the development of one's self
from ground zero: it sounds as if you had a very good and tactful friend
who was able to point out what they could in terms of your social skills. I
have been watching your posts in several NGs, and consider you to be one of
the more insightful and eloquent of netizens.

The point of this response is to focus on interpersonal dynamics. While
people can equip themselves with any number of social accessories and
compensatory features, some of which can put you in the forefront of the
pack, in terms of appearance (such as impeccable taste in fashion and
courtesy) there will always be one or two who lead by a wide margin. Often
these may even be percieved as retros in some few respects, yet their
leadership is hardly affected.

There is a personal dynamism, an engaging personality, which draws
attention to them as beings to reckon with. It is a matter of poise and
social courage, a willingness to put their thoroughly considered positions
and stances into the social arena. The presence and carriage of a dynamic
individual outshines all else about him or her socially, tact and
consideration keep these individuals from becoming a boor, and in
consequence social power gravitates their way, which is one of the primary
attributes of attractiveness.

Why do so many actors become powerful politicians? An actor can speak
clearly, eloquently, and with a dynamic rhetorical style at once elegant
and persuasive. He or she can sway people with cadence and presence,
drawing the audience to his or her point of view simply by presenting it as
an accessible position. The performer meters what is revealed, allowing
strategic and provocative points to be exhibited. Their audience wishes
more detail, and draws near.

The trick, then, is to have prepared your position sufficiently to provide
a feast of insight, which it appears you, John, have, when they are drwn in
by the allure of your stand.

Richard Romero
-- 
Silent Angel of the R.F.A.