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F. Calderon (fmartin@herald.infi.net) wrote:
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> 20/20 (on ABC) had a story about short men and their dating problems this 
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> They had a group of men in a room, with one short man in the middle, and a 
> group of women in another room looking through a two-way mirror at the men.  
> The women were asked which men they would date.  None picked the short 
> guy--even after they were told the short guy was an M.D. who had written a 
> successful book, yatta, yatta.  

> They did this several times with different guys (including different short 
> guys) and different women.  In one particular case, they were told the short 
> guy (who happened to be 5 feet tall this time) was a venture capitalist who 
> became a millionaire at 25--and they STILL wouldn't go out with him!  

> Unbelievably shallow, I think...

     Shallow indeed, yes, but hey, at least the women in the experiment
were more interested in looks than money.  Lesser of two shallows?  :) I
didn't see the show, so I won't explore the particulars of F. Calderon's
example/summary. 

     To say it differently, I would be less suspicious of someone who took
a possible romance-object's ~looks~ into account than I would be of
someone who asked for a career breakdown and financial profile.  I
wouldn't applaud either as major criterion; appearance shouldn't be the
only consideration for "choosing."  I don't think a stable person who is
looking for an emotional, intimate relationship, could possibly be
satisfied with looks alone. 

     The real litmus test on how important appearance is in choosing a
mate comes ~after~ the marriage.  What if one's spouse gains 30 pounds? 
100 pounds?  More?  What about an accident or illness that leaves the
partner disabled or disfigured?  

     Would the marriage be dissolved?  If so or not, how would they manage
their feelings?  If appearance was a major factor, the resentment, anger
and feeligns of entrapment could lead to some ugly behavior--but to be
positive, it could lead to some major growth and expansion of the marriage
and each person's character. 

-Robin


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