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She-wolf wrote:
> 
> Boris T. Dog wrote:
> >
> > Tommy the Tourist wrote:
> > >
> > > In article <57od8p$8k4$1@info1.fnal.gov>,
> > > Robert Kutschke <kutschke@fnpspa.fnal.gov> wrote:
> > > >          33 specified a minimum height of 5'7'' or more
> > > >           3 specified a minimum height of 5'5'' or 5'6''
> > > >           4 specified no minimum height
> > >
> > > These figures sound right-on.  _Esquire_ just did a story about men, and
> > > they mentioned that in a study of personals ads, almost all women required
> > > men to be tall.
> > >
> > > This is a bummer for short men.  We are all born into this world with
> > > various gifts and various difficulties.
> > >
> > > Tom
> >
> > Tom,
> >
> > I used to worry about being short.  Then I stopped worrying about it.
> > Since then I have had far too many women wanting to marry me.  All
> > heights and backgrounds.  All attractive.  All intelligent.  Remember-
> > it's just the stupid ones who care about your height.
> 
> I think this statement is a little rude !
> If you just mean it's stupid to think someone's not a nice person because
> he is short (or very tall), you're right.
> But when it comes to falling in love with someone, I don't think it is
> stupid to "care" about height. After all, you don't "choose" the person
> you fall in love with your brain, it has not much to do without being
> intelligent. An intelligent person may be capable of STOPPING himself from
> falling in love with someone he or she is attracted to if there are rational
> reasons against it, but you cannot force yourself to love someone who is
> exceptionally nice but just does not have that certain something that
> attracts you to him emotionally.
> If someone has an ugly face, it is more difficult to find someone who falls
> in love with him, sure - this is a "bummer" for anyone who's just born
> unattractive. If someone is fat, maybe because he's got some disease, it's
> also more difficult, if he is crippled, it's more difficult and so on.
> We just can't control the way we choose the one we fall for.
> Also, both times you talked about women in your post you talked about
> attractive women.
> If it was true that a person who cares about the height when choosing
> his/her love is stupid, wouldn't that also mean that someone who cares about
> attractiveness is stupid, too ? After all, both are just external factors
> that are beyond our control.
> 
> On the other hand, I wouldn't give too much about what anyone says in an
> interview about the type of man/woman he or she prefares.
> Most of the time, people pick partners that have little in common with
> their ideals. If you'd ask me what kind of men I like the best, I too
> would have to say tall, strong, dark-haired (like many women) and green-eyed
> (that's my special preference...). But the men I have actually picked for
> my partners did seldom match this. One was tall, but blonde, one was dark and
> green-eyed, but short, one was even short and blonde, and none of them was
> exactly what I described above. But I fell for them nevertheless, and loved
> them just as much.
> 
> >
> > Attitude makes a big difference.  Intelligent, attractive women want a
> > man who is witty, kind, intelligent and sure of himself.
> 
> [I just left that in in order not to delete the second reference to
> attractive women....]
> 
> She-Wolf

Uh, She-Wolf,

Before you go off on a "rude" tangent:

Do you know what the definition of "attractive" is?  I didn't think so.
"Attractive" doesn't mean "What you see on popular magazine covers."  
"Attractive" means "What one finds appealing."  

I've been out with plenty of women that I've found immensely appealing,
but other men have said were downright unattractive.  And I've been told
I was crazy for not going out with some model-types who were wild about
me.  Why?  Often I just didn't find them attractive in some way. (Or
they were just a bit boring.)

You state you have a special preference for the appearance of men,
though your lovers don't always measure up to this.  At least you're
flexible, but I've never understood this sort of thing.  I have no set
standards for attractiveness.  If someone is attractive to me, then
they're attractive to me.  Saying that "attractive" means some
particular look is downright silly.

I used to have a roomate who, though not exactly a Mr. Stud, wouldn't
date any woman who wasn't a magazine-cover type.  He ended up spending a
lot of money on a lot of women. He rarely even got a goodnight kiss from
any of them.  He never (and, last I heard from him still hasn't) had a
good relationship. (He also never had any sex with them, but that's
another story.)  Why?  He's was witty, intelligent, not bad looking,
etc.  But like you, he defined attractive as "magazine cover".  Unlike
you, he wouldn't settle for anything other than his ideal woman.

So tread lightly when using semantics to flame someone.  Not everyone
defines looks the way you do.

-- 
Boris T. Dog
El Rancho Boris
Dripping Springs, TX