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BenF (bfoy@access2.digex.net) wrote:
: On Fri, 2 Feb 1996, Mike Dickerson wrote:

: > : We don't care how tall they are, 
: > : though we may be more attracted to women of a certain height.  We don't 
: > : care if they are in perfect physical condition, though some guys might 
: > : prefer that, especially if they are in excellent physical shape themselves.  
: > : Only if you are looking for a plaything, do you care about nothing but looks.
: > 
: > Along with spelling and grammar lessons, you should learn
: > not to generalize about all men when you are only giving your
: > own opinions.  Different men have different opinions about
: > dating that go way beyond mere preference.  Get a clue.

: Generalizing, me ?!?  I used this great little word called CAN several 
: times in my previous post.  The reason I used it was to avoid 
: generalizing.  Maybe you should learn how to read before posting 
: anything else :^)  

OK, I cut out the first two sentences of the portion you reposted.
You may notice that after the first two sentences, you don't use
that little 'can' word at all. From this perspective, it looks
like you have appointed yourself spokesman for all men.

: > some of these other qualities.  I have known several men who
: > won't take the time to get to know women that they find physically
: > unattractive.  Women can be the same way, it's just a fact of life.
: > Deal with it.

: Oh, I am dealing with it very well.  And you are quite right, it is a 
: fact of life.  The question is how much does a woman's attractiveness have 
: to do with looks.  You say alot, I say some.  Have you ever met a woman 
: who you were not attracted to, until after you talked to her? 

Yes, but mostly in the context of friendship.  I dated one or
two women in college that I didn't find physically attractive,
but that was when I was inexperienced and insecure.

: > I have noticed that *in general* people who perceive themselves
: > to be less attractive are less concerned with the looks of 
: > their partner.  I have also observed a few exceptions, but they
: > are definitely in the minority.  If your experiences are really
: > that much different, I would suggest that you stop hanging 
: > out with losers.

: Thats an interesting theory.  I find that people who perceive themselves 
: "less attractive" are only concerned with getting a partner.  The traits 
: of their partner tend to be unimportant.

This has not necessarily been my experience.  I find that
people who perceive themselves as less attractive are often 
just as selective as anyone else.  They just tend to select
for things other than looks (intellect, for example).

YMMV

Mike
--
I don't waste my time rationalizing, second-guessing myself,
or feeling excessive guilt.  I am not perfect, I do stupid
things, and I'm damned proud of it.