🚀 go-pugleaf

I hope you don't mind that I am replying to your post without actually
answering your questions, but you have touched on a subject that really
gets to me.  For the record, I am a married woman, separated for over
6 years, and the following is strictly my opinion and I realize that
there are exceptions to every rule.

To begin with, I don't think ANY body ought to get married until they
have proven to themselves that they are capable of taking care of themselves.
This means totally supporting themselves in a dwelling of their own, rented
or otherwise, after all, divorce is not the only way a person may find
themselves unexpectedly alone.  Going on this premise, I see no reason
for support or alimony and have no respect for a person who tries to soak
an ex financially just because they are bitter or have a bruised ego.
Please remember that I have already acknowledged that there are exceptions,
as in a spouse becoming disabled and being left on their own when the healthy
so discovers that they can't handle it. (Just an example).  Child support
is most certainly a responsibility that no parent should try to get out of
and does not fall under MY idea of being self-supporting, but even that
can be done in such a way that the non-custodial parent can't possibly have
a life beyond child support, that is wrong.  I DO live according to my
feelings here, I have NEVER insisted that my husband give me ANYTHING, and
I never will.  We have each bought a house since separating, independent of
each other, and when we finally get around to divorcing, there will be NO
battles of any kind, GUARENTEED.

Sorry for rambling, but it seems that MOST people recieving alimony are
women who could take care of themselves if they wanted to, it riles me
that these women seem to make us all look bad or alike, it isn't so.

Val