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In article <1993Jan26.140845.6834@cs.brown.edu>, psm@cs.brown.edu (Phoebe Martone) writes:
> I'm single. Since this is such a new group, and anything is possible at this
> stage, let's get started and create something good.

Sounds good to me.

 
> I've noticed that here, as well as elsewhere, it is difficult for people
> in their
> 30's and 40's and 50's (and upwards) to meet others of the opposite sex without
> going to a place where people are awkward, defensive and nervous (dance bars).
> I love to dance, but these places bring out the strangeness in people. As many
> continue to point out, there are few alternatives. It would be good to develop
> some alternatives.

Personally, I much prefer pub style bars (that have decent background music
playing) to dance bars.  I find people there to be much friendlier and less
guarded which in turns makes for a very social atmosphere.  Other positive
aspects about going to a pub is that one does not have to get all gussied up,
and there is usually no cover charge.  The drawbacks of this is that the pubs
don't seem to draw a large number of available people.  They seem to draw
people who are escaping (sorta speak) from a SO for an evening, but then again
there are always exceptions to the rules.  As much as I like to dance (at times)
I'll stick to the pub atmosphere over the dance club anyday - there is just
something so phony/pretentious about meeting MOTAS (Members of the appropriate
sex) in a dance club (however going to a dance club on a date is fine now and
then).

Common interest groups can be fun, but may be difficult to fit into a busy
schedule, and if they start to feel like "group therapy" sessions that becomes
tiresome.

I agree the older one gets the more difficult it is to meet MOTAS but that
doesn't mean it is impossible...you have to keep trying.

Just my $.02 on the subject

Karen
kg@bbn.com