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rec.org.mensa trimmed out - what the hell was that doing there?

In article <DrBL7p.BKt@world.std.com>,
John Cooley <jcooley@world.std.com> wrote:
>I have an aquaintance (more like a friend of a friend) who I've known for
>the past three years whose name I'll say is "Barb".  Barb has been going out
>with Ben for over 9 years and desperately wants to marry him.  He said no
>because of a mix of reasons plus the fact he wanted her to lose some weight.
>Barb was kind of bullshit about the whole thing so started to try dating
>other men.  She has a fairly good job, her own condo, but she was 5'6"
>and wore size 22 clothes.  She couldn't get any guys to date her.  Over
>about 6 months she lost about 30 lbs and plateaued at size 18.  For the 
>past 1 1/2 years she's been doing everything to get a steady
>boyfriend -- stuff like paying big bucks to answer personal ads and
>joining dating services.  And every weekend the friend of a friend tells
>me how poor Barb had a great date with some new guy -- but they *never*
>call her back for a second date.  Barb's even joined one of those pricey
>dating services where it worked out to $120.00 per date -- and she still
>can't get a second date!

Wrong again, sir.  I married someone that size.  We are no longer
married, but her size has nothing to do with the divorce.  There are
lots of men who like big women.  I happen to know two, besides myself,
who either dated for a respectable period of time or married big
women.  You just don't happen to know any.

Our approaches are clearly quite different.  When I'm looking, I find
plenty of dates with women of all sizes.  Size doesn't matter very
much to me, you see.  Brains and personality do.  And, just in case
you want to ask, yes, these women *do* get second dates.  And third
and fourth and fifth if we find we have something to talk about.

I do not know how your aquaintance is approaching the dating aspect of
her life.  And since you don't know her very well at all, her being a
friend of a friend, you aren't qualified to say that it's merely her
size that makes the difference.  Now, if you had personal knowledge of
how she talks with people, what her personality is, you might not say
what you did above.

Frankly, I find your comments amazing because you assume so much.  You
would be well advised to speak from personal experience only.

Lastly, I think you're posting outrageous remarks like the above
merely to start a topic.

					Robert
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Robert Becker                                      robertb@world.std.com
Erstwhile bicyclist, avid father, longtime breather