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On Fri, 3 May 1996, John Cooley wrote:

> -=Weezel=-  <louise@mv.mv.com> wrote:
> >Ahh. Ok. It really sounded like you were saying "I don't like it but this 
> >is how it is" and I also heard "this is how I am" coming through, and now 
> >you say this isn't how you are... ok. I'm a bit pre-sensitized to some of 
> >your comments, after the "ode to 28-year-olds" string. *wry smile*
> 
> Weezel, as you can guess, I, many times, like to look at random data and
> try to figure out rules of thumb or even try to understand the true
> basis of the data.  Many times the results of such personal research isn't
> Politically Correct or personally pleasing -- especially when I discover
> how I may be on the losing side of one of these observations.  But I have
> to live in the world as it is -- not the way I want it to be.
> 
>   - John

Just got back from seeing "the truth about cats and dogs". It is 
*exactly* what this string is talking about. I recommend the movie; I 
laughed a lot and very strongly identified with the brunette. 

John, If I lived in your idea of "the world as it is" I wouldn't even 
think of dating as I'm not a 28-year-old bimbo, and never was. I would 
probably get a couple more cats and learn to sleep in the middle of my 
bed, instead of on one side. 

The idea about looking at trends is to decide if you want to be part of
them. Sometimes you have no choice - you may not be part of the "beautiful
people" crowd, sorry, no go, never, not in this lifetime. Or you might not
be part of the crowd of people with infinite funds (for various reasons).
However sometimes you DO have a choice, such as being part of the crowd of
people who looks for something that the statistical "normal" people aren't
into, as opposed to being dazzled by either beautiful or rich people when
you're asking people to date you. 

I suppose what you're after makes a difference. If you're looking for a 
trophy you wouldn't have the same criteria as someone who's looking for a 
friend and partner. And you might find someone who is willing to stick 
with you if things go wrong, to wait out the bad times, to do the whole 
"in sickness and health" thing and mean it.

--Louise, who hopes real life works ou;t like the movies