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sir@srv.net (Steven Reiser) wrote:

<snipped good story>


 >growth is very important and even though married we go on dates several
 >times a month and more than before we were married!

With each other, I hope.... ;-)

 >Being a couple alone together gives us the most pleasure.  Being a dad is
 >ok, but for me I am very glad I did not start in my 20s and am glad not to
 >be raising a large family, and commend those of you with the perseverance
 >to really do a good job of that!!

I really liked your story, and I'm glad you found someone to share the rest
of your life with.  It is definitely heart-warming.

Ron and I met in college, and we waited 4 1/2 years before we got married.  I
think this was a good thing to do, although now Ron says if he had known that
being married to me would be so nice, he would have encouraged me to marry
him sooner (ain't he sweet??).  We waited 3 years (married 6-86, Ryan born
11-22-89) before we had our son, Ryan.  I am glad that we waited.  We wanted
to have "our time", and we also wanted to wait until it really felt right.
We had planned on having two or three kids, but have decided to stick with
just one.  The desire to have another one may become strong again, so we are
keeping our options open (so to speak), but I think this will be it.  We just
don't want to deal with all the sibling problems that we see in other kids,
and that we had (especially me) growing up.  Then there's the whole
over-population thing.  One is nice.  We also place an emphasis on our life
just as a couple, although we do involve Ryan a lot, also.  It seems to be
working nicely.  He doesn't have to compete for our attention, although we
are trying to teach him that when Ron and I are talking that he needs to not
demand our attention *all* the time.  He's learning. :-)

I would definitely marry Ron again, and I would definitely have Ryan again,
although I could have done without the 36 hour labor, and the 10 1/2 pounds
he weighed at birth!  Owwwww....  He likes to hear about his "birth"day, and
I told him that although it was harder than normal (he had the cord wrapped
around his neck and stuff), I would do it all again, even knowing how hard it
was.  He likes that part. :-)

Valerie
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