🚀 go-pugleaf

On Sat, 20 Apr 1996, John Cooley wrote:
>... 
> What do I have to look forward to?  I'm in a generation where nobody really
> cares about anyone or anything other than themselves.  Alchoholism, drug
> use, and divorce are very common place.  When the going gets tough, nobody
> truely expects their significant other to stick around.  And the only
> people who aren't afflicted by the divorce/booze/drugs/self-first problem
> seem to be the religious fundamentals who completely give up any sense of
> free thought or individuality.  (Sort of damned if you do and damned if
> you don't.)  When my parents got married it was for life; when I get married
> I have to hope that I got a good enough pre-nup plus wonder what the state's
> divorce laws might be if I lose the coin toss determining whether my
> marriage makes it or not.  I find it all very depressing.
> 
>   - John

I'm decidedly NOT a fundamentalist, I'm not christian at all... and if I 
got married it would be with my expectation of building something that 
would last for life. I expected my previous living-together relationship 
to last for life - it lasted 12 years - and that was without promises or 
vows.

I'm looking at things sort of the way you are. Most of the men I meet are
not into commitment, or want open marriages, or already have had enough
kids, or are looking for someone much younger than I am, or are already
committed to someone else, or they would expect me to be "traditional" 
which I'm not, or they're into whips and chains as a lifestyle (although
most of those aren't looking for marriage anyhow) or they are seriously
religious and it would be difficult to be married to them and not be part
of their religion. 

I'm glad my cats are into lifetime commitments. At least it gives some 
continuity to one relationship!

--L