🚀 go-pugleaf

Just to throw a spark of hope into a bleak thread:

John Cooley (jcooley@world.std.com) wrote:

: What do I have to look forward to?  I'm in a generation where nobody really
: cares about anyone or anything other than themselves.  Alchoholism, drug
: use, and divorce are very common place.  When the going gets tough, nobody
: truely expects their significant other to stick around.  And the only
: people who aren't afflicted by the divorce/booze/drugs/self-first problem
: seem to be the religious fundamentals who completely give up any sense of
: free thought or individuality.  (Sort of damned if you do and damned if
: you don't.)  


I know you complained in another thread about being annoyed at people who 
got you on "details" (like saying nobody when you'd mean most people I 
take it? ;) I happen to think, at least in this case, it's worth being 
careful.

There *are* a lot of narcisstic people out there. always have been.

You're quite right about drugs, alcohol and dovrce. What you're wrong 
about is there not being anyone left who isn't afflicted by one or the other.

*smile* take heart - there are people. Believe me. I know some of them - 
and I bet you do too. (ok, I hope you do!)

: When my parents got married it was for life; when I get married
: I have to hope that I got a good enough pre-nup plus wonder what the state's
: divorce laws might be if I lose the coin toss determining whether my
: marriage makes it or not.  I find it all very depressing.

but would you really want to stay in a marriage that makes you miserable?
I *do* think that a lot of people get married who 
shouldn't. They're just not ready yet. I'm ambivalent about marriage, for 
a whole host of reasons I won't go into here - but just loooking around, 
I see so many loveless marriages that it is scary. The few loving ones I 
see are a spark of hope. 

The key is being willing to tough out hard times with the cooperation of 
your mate - but knowing when things aren't working and being able to let 
go. (and not just throwing up your hands at the first sign of trouble and 
saying 'I quit'!)

dobie