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Daryl Sid  <daryl@apninc.com> wrote:
>"I love you... today" seems to be the answer.  I'm trying to remember the 
>ex-girlfriends that I've dated that ended up hating me or me hating them. 
>  And the few of them that I thought I was truely "in love" with, turned 
>bitter.  What's the divorce rate at?  Why not be honest with ourselves?  
>We have no clue what love is.  Love is just an ideal.  It would be nice 
>to find someone to Love forever.

Daryl, I (and probably 99.999% of the other people on this planet) totally
agree with this universal desire to be in a truely loving relationship.
When I look at my parent's lives, I find I'm genuinely jealous of it: they've
been married for over 30 years, own their house in Vermont, have three sons
who have good jobs and an education.  When times were tough for them, they
toughed through it.  Divorce was never an option.  (And they're not terribly
religious so it ain't a church thing; it's their core values.)

What do I have to look forward to?  I'm in a generation where nobody really
cares about anyone or anything other than themselves.  Alchoholism, drug
use, and divorce are very common place.  When the going gets tough, nobody
truely expects their significant other to stick around.  And the only
people who aren't afflicted by the divorce/booze/drugs/self-first problem
seem to be the religious fundamentals who completely give up any sense of
free thought or individuality.  (Sort of damned if you do and damned if
you don't.)  When my parents got married it was for life; when I get married
I have to hope that I got a good enough pre-nup plus wonder what the state's
divorce laws might be if I lose the coin toss determining whether my
marriage makes it or not.  I find it all very depressing.

  - John

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