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In article <DzAyAu.9po@world.std.com>, jcooley@world.std.com (John Cooley) writes:
> Anne P. Mitchell, Esq. <shedevil@vix.com> wrote:
>>Hey!..you forgot a category! :-)
>>
>>3.)  Those women who have full lives (career, activities, friends, family,
>>etc.) and who don't focus on their dating at all - if you meet someone
>>great... but it isn't an end at all, which basically renders moot
>>the question of the means.
> 
> Anne, I have to disagree with you on this one.  I understand how important
> it is to be your own person, etc., but the best times in my life have
> been when I was living in a supportive, healthy relationship with a good
> woman.  Yea, you can spend time with your family and friends, but nothing
> quite beats being with that special someone.  Never in my life have I ever
> truely grown on a personal level and stretched in the way I saw the world
> than when experiencing life with a good Significant Other.  (Of course,
> this can also become a Living Hell if you don't choose your mate carefully;
> not something to be done lightly!)
> 
> My parents have been happily married for over 40 years.  They're retired
> and love very much just being with each other.  They're very active in
> their community, etc. -- but the key is that they really are happy just
> being with each other.  In many ways, although we have more chances to
> travel and get better jobs than they did in their day, I still kind of
> envy their lives.   For my folks they went from dirt poor to very well
> off -- but if the money was gone tomorrow they'd still be together!  My
> generation, raised on TV and malls, is far more worldly, sophisticated, 
> and selfish; for most of our marriages when the money gets tight, it's 
> off to divorce court.  Far too many of us are focused on our own happiness
> above all else.
> 
>   - John Cooley

John -

The discussion in this case was about so-called rules for women catching
men. And Anne added the comment about women whose lives don't revolve
around dating. What do your comments about only your own personal situation
have to do with that? And did your mother use any of the "rules" to 
"catch" your father?  And what is this "for most of our marriages when the
money gets tight, it's off to divorce court"? On alt.support.divorce
I don't see very many of those nor do I know anyone who divorced for
that reason. I'm sure there are some, but most?  Be careful not to
think that the fathers in your fathers group speak for all divorces.

-- Gail