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Anne P. Mitchell, Esq. <shedevil@vix.com> wrote:
>Hey!..you forgot a category! :-)
>
>3.)  Those women who have full lives (career, activities, friends, family,
>etc.) and who don't focus on their dating at all - if you meet someone
>great... but it isn't an end at all, which basically renders moot
>the question of the means.

Anne, I have to disagree with you on this one.  I understand how important
it is to be your own person, etc., but the best times in my life have
been when I was living in a supportive, healthy relationship with a good
woman.  Yea, you can spend time with your family and friends, but nothing
quite beats being with that special someone.  Never in my life have I ever
truely grown on a personal level and stretched in the way I saw the world
than when experiencing life with a good Significant Other.  (Of course,
this can also become a Living Hell if you don't choose your mate carefully;
not something to be done lightly!)

My parents have been happily married for over 40 years.  They're retired
and love very much just being with each other.  They're very active in
their community, etc. -- but the key is that they really are happy just
being with each other.  In many ways, although we have more chances to
travel and get better jobs than they did in their day, I still kind of
envy their lives.   For my folks they went from dirt poor to very well
off -- but if the money was gone tomorrow they'd still be together!  My
generation, raised on TV and malls, is far more worldly, sophisticated, 
and selfish; for most of our marriages when the money gets tight, it's 
off to divorce court.  Far too many of us are focused on our own happiness
above all else.

  - John Cooley

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