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In <30d10d61.9302720@news2.cts.com> baz@cts.com (Barbara Anderson) writes: 
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>[] orlando4@ix.netcom.com (CHARLIE BARTA ) wrote:
>[] ...If we were honest during the early stages...
>
>On Fri, 08 Dec 1995 00:41:19 GMT, jolee@cts.com (Shirley) wrote
>[] Well, I never bother to lie....
>
>[] Peggie Gaughan (pegship@ix.netcom.com) wrote:
>[]... even the guys I dated who say they want total honesty find they can 
>[] accept it, but not give it.
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>On Wed, 13 Dec 1995 21:30:06 GMT, schafer@netcom.com (Lenny Schafer)
wrote:
>[] ...Honesty indeed is a noble quality, but to expect a degree of it in
others 
>[] is to expect that they can be honest with themselves, let alone you...
>
>On Thu, 14 Dec 1995 05:16:21 GMT, megazone@world.std.com (MegaZone) wrote:
>[]... I'm still looking for a woman who can accept and give total
honesty....
>
>On 14 Dec 1995 03:32:27 -0600, rayward@fohnix.metronet.com (Ray
>Ward-telecomrc.com) wrote:
>[]...I've yet to meet a woman who can be as honest as I can.
>
>
>There's a lot of room for misunderstanding in that word - "honesty".
>
>If I wear makeup, would that make me dishonest?

No; it means you probably like to look your best and enhance your
natural features.

>If I listen, even though I'm bored with what you're saying, would that
make me
>dishonest?

No; it makes you polite, although it can be carried to extremes! :)

>If I tell you that I'm an expert on jazz but say something about it
>that you don't believe, would that make me dishonest?

No; if I know you're an expert and I still don't believe it, that's my
problem.

>If I like Mexican food this week, but next week decide I don't like it
and
>want Chinese instead, would that make me dishonest?

No; it just makes you flexible.

>If I don't tell you my deep hopes and fears and feelings, would that
>make me dishonest?

No; it makes you cautious.
>
>So are you all looking for someone who is open?  Someone whose
>view of themself (sorry, grammar-types) matches yours?  Someone
>who's behavior is "settled"?  Someone whose view of the world and
>"reality" matches your own?
>
Actually, I'm just looking for someone who doesn't out and out LIE. 
Someone who, when he says he wants to get married, means it.  Someone who,
when he says he respects me, means it.  Someone who, when he promises to do
something, does it (most of the time - pobody's nerfect), or doesn't
promise it.

I realize this is the rose-by-any-other-name kind of discussion, but I
really meant it "honesty" in the good old-fashioned respect and candor
category.  Mr. Webster says:

"honesty : fairness and straightforwardness of conduct."

Can't speak for the rest of youse.  Good point, though.

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                                           Peggie Gaughan
                     librarian ~ musician ~ Irish lady
Such harmony is in immortal souls,
But whilst this muddy vesture
Doth grossly close it in, we cannot hear it.
          The Merchant of Venice, act V sc 1
          William Shakespeare
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