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> I am not as young, but I still find that men can't handle the total
> honesty, nor the strong independant woman that our present culture
> breeds.  

<squinting>

I think our current culture /allows/ strong, independant women, but it 
certainly does not breed them.  

The old sex roles are still being beaten into our childrens' heads.  :(

> My relationships are equally as short-lived for all of the
> same reasons listed above.  I would really like to meet a man that can
> accept, as well as give, the "shoot from the hip" type of honesty
> that I try to live my life with.  Games tend of cause more problems
> that gain, so why play them?

I wonder what shoot-from-the-hip means.  Keeping in mind I donn't know 
you (so I'm not talking about you in particular), many people confuse 
"telling it like it is" or "shooting from the hip" with incredibly rude, 
boorish, immature behavior.  

Honesty does not have to mean confrontational hostility.  

Example:  an ex- went with me to La Madeleine for dinner.  I had a large 
Caesar (yum!) and she had a quiche or pochette and some of that exquisite 
tommy basil soup...

By the time she'd finished her soup, the entree had cooled (assuming it 
was hot in the first place).  She jumped up into the cafe-style line and 
fairly shouted at the manager:  "THIS IS COLD!!!!."

Undoubtedly true and completely honest. 

Also tactless; I was aghast.  This gorgeous creature had NO clue how to 
behave in public.  What is it they say about horticulture?  ;)  

*Was the entree originally serverd correctly, then cooled as she ate the 
soup?  If so, "Excuse me, can you warm this for me?" would be appropriate.

*If the entree was served too cool, then she could have pulled him off to 
the side, asked for a warming or a replacement:  "I believe this entree 
was served too cold.  I would like a replacement.  And you may want to 
check the serving temp of the other entrees on the line before someone 
else gets a cold one."

Even so, the manager did quite well with the situation even thought the 
entire line was watching.  

**Moral of the Story**
Honesty without tact is useless.  
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Again, I'm not talking about you.  :)






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