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In article <47dvmr$ki2@ixnews2.ix.netcom.com>,
CHARLIE BARTA  <orlando4@ix.netcom.com> spake to McKissack:
>>CHARLIE BARTA (orlando4@ix.netcom.com) wrote:
>>: In <45tl3i$792@news.iadfw.net> "Scott C. McKissack"
>>: I feel most people (myself sometimes included), play head games
>during
>>: the infatuation period of a relationship. It's like the peacock, we

Nobody I've ever met is, or is like, a peacock, nor any other
kind of animal.

>>: want to show off our bright side. Once the plumage falls off and
>face
>>: one another's true nature we may have dug such a deep hole (lies),
>>: about ourselves that the only way out is to lie some more or brake
>it
>>: off. If we were honest during the early stages, we might feel
>>: inadequate and not pursue our desire to build a relationship. Know
>what
>>: I mean?

Nobody knows what you mean unless you specifically say it.
Otherwise they'd be prescient.

>>Uhhhhh...no, I don't know what you mean.  I don't think that
>>telling outright lies is understandable.
	[zip]
>>I do not think it is understandable to tell outright
>>lies to your partner, especially during the early stages 
>>of a relationship.  Maybe this comes from some sort of
>>naive hope that I am not being told outright lies, but 
>>it is the way I feel. 
>>Mike
>
>This is CB again. Mike, you have prejudged me! I am not the above at
>all. I just feel when people meet for the first time they always put
>their best foot forward. We always want to display our personality in
	[zip]
>That isn't it either...if I sold Coppertone at one of the Disney hotels

Then say it right the first time.

>I might say to a potential recipient of my affection, "I'm a skin care
>specialist", not a pool boy or towel boy. People glamorize their
>selves. Know what I mean?

Yep, and there's still no excuse for it.  If you say you're a
skin care specialist and someone calls you on it, then you've
lied.

Opinion: call a spade a spade.  If that doesn't sound attractive,
then start considering the source rather than try to dress it up.

After all, it's not one's occupation that means something:  it's
how one treats their partner.

					Robert

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