Re: Friends and Lovers(was ..HEADGAMES?)

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From: Mark Swearingen
Date: Sun, 05 Nov 1995 00:00

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robertb@math.mit.edu (Robert Becker) wrote:

 => >>Not to mention the fact about how much it hurts to become friends
 => >>with someone and have them reject you because you won't go further
 => >>with it.  For this reason I keep my friendships with straight men
 => >>who aren't going out with a friend of mine or friends of a boyfriend
 => >>at a certain level.  Cafe friends I'd call it.  Someone whose company
 => >>Aqua

 => Charlie, did you read Aqua's comment?  Aqua said that she keeps
 => straight men who are dating her friends or are friends of her
 => boyfriend at a distance.  I see nothing wrong with that:  they're
 => already *involved*, don't you see?

Wrong!  You misread Aqua's comment.  She's not talking about guys who are 
already involved.  She said, "... straight men who *aren't* going out with a 
friend of mine..."  In other words, this is someone that she wants to have as 
a friend and nothing more, but she's afraid that he will develop a romantic 
interest in her if they spend any significant amount of time together and 
that he will then stop being friends with her if she doesn't respond 
romantically to him.  And she's right -- that's exactly what will happen.

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From: mark@ephesus.com (Mark Swearingen)
Subject: Re: Friends and Lovers(was ..HEADGAMES?)
Date: 1995/11/05
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