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stevep@shore.net (Steve P.) wrote:

>In article <45fmpu$un@transfer.stratus.com>,
>fereira@isis.com (John Fereira) wrote:
>> In article <r2xewgHwtWqX084yn@shore.net> stevep@shore.net writes:
>> >In article <45eii1$q3f@gazette.tandem.com>,
>> >Aqua <reif_andrea@tandem.com> wrote:

>> >> Can someone please define what is a head game.  Yeah, this is something
>> >> we all know but who can actually define what it is?

>> >> Someone starting something with you and then changing zir mind?

>> >Not that alone. That's fine.
>> >How about when someone you recently met through the Internet takes the
>> >time to write email to you the next morning telling you how much fun she
>> >had on the date, and then when you ask to see her again she says no?

>> That's not a head game.  It's possible to have fun on a date yet find 
>> that there is no romantic interest.  Although many people have different
>> definitions of what is considered a "date" often a date is used to see
>> if there is any romantic interest.  If that is someone's intent in the
>> first place then it is hardly a head game.  It's just that you expect
>> a romantic interest because *you* may have one.   The expectation that
>> she may want to see you again because she had fun on a first date and
>> you have a romantic interest is only in *your* head.

>Then why bother sending an email message at all? If you're not
>interested any more, why do something that gives, IMO, the wrong
>impression?

The reason for sending a follow-up e-mail is ...politeness...you know
the Thank You card...  I went on a date with a guy I met on the net...
he lived kind of far away and was very fun and interesting...but I 
wasn't attracted to him...I still sent him a thank you e-mail...not to
encourage him...it's just a nice thing to do!  I'm sure he knew what
my personal reaction was...this wasn't a secret...and no game!

Shirley