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d-jones@ix.netcom.com (Dave ) wrote:
 
> I feel that a head game is when someone asks for something, just to
> see if the other person will do it.  Like asking to be taken somewhere
> that you really don't want to go, just to see if you will be taken
> there.  Asking for an expensive watch, that you really don't like,
> just to see if the other person cares enough about you to buy it, or
> getting very angry at a mis-understanding.  

People really do this, how stupid and boy have I been missing out.  Just
think when I was a starving student I could have had my admirers buy 
those textbooks I struggled to pay for.  I never realized I could just
ask men for what I want and they would buy it for me.  Maybe someone
should start a course in how to do this with a straight face, like 
speed seduction only it pays for itself :)

The only part I don't understand is why ask for something you don't
want when you could ask for something you do want.

> It is not caring about your partner/friend/lover and only thinking
> about how to test them.  It is not wanting to improve the
> relationship, and wanting only to see what you can get!

Sounds like a good definition.

> However if your partner knows that, then there is a double headgame
> going and that is OK.  Such as when a man is with a prostitute.  She
> is building up his ego, for more money, what she can get.  He knows
> this, but likes it anyway.

I suppose.
 
> >>mere friendliness among another.  For example men in many countries
> >hug their friends, so a man from one of those countries may hug his
> >American gay male friend who will then say the foreign man is playing
> >head games because he isn't interested in a sexual relationship.

> A mis-understanding, and the gay person might feel that there is a
> headtrip going on, it is because the two cultures don't understand
> each other, not a deliberate headtrip!

I think more accusations of "head-games" are related to this type of
misunderstanding and a natural unwillingness to be blunt about a 
rejection than than are examples of the behaviour you describe.  But
then again maybe I'm overly optimistic about people.


> Dave Jones

Thanks for your input.

Aqua