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On 11 Jan 1996 14:06:20 -0500 Netnom (netnom@aol.com) wrote:

: would you really, truly be comfortable with a women saying, 'sorry but i
: have a date with another guy"? 

Yeah, why not? I'd just ask another woman, or usenet all night.

> if she said this, would you ask her out again?  

Why not, if she didn't seem revolted by the idea? If it's just
a scheduling problem that's no big deal. 

 : (i.e., are you willing to date a woman who is also dating
: another man? 

Hell, I'd date a woman who's married to another man and has others too!

:  i'm talking about the initial stages of dating, before 
: there is any sex 

"Stages" are irrelevant. Besides, if I don't at least get to third base
on the first "date" I don't bother asking her again; I figure that most
gals do "boink" me right away, so if she won't she just don't want me.

: or commitment.) 
     ^^^^^^^^^^^^
YUCK. That dirty word again!

: i think  most women fear that the answer
: for most men to these questions would be 'NO.'      

That's why I have such an easy time, perhaps: I'm easy-going, really.
 
: and how about you, do you tell women you're dating about how you've also
: been out on a date with another woman?  

If she asks, yes. How she takes it is her business.

: and why do i get the feeling that if a woman *did* tell you that she was
: out on a date with another man,, that you'd say *that* was a head game,
: too -- i.e., she's trying to make you jealous! 

Not me, ma'am. I'd just figure he had more money or she'd break it for me. 

: now i agree that an outright lie is no good.  personally, i will say that
: i'm 'busy' or 'have plans' or am 'seeing a friend' -- all of which are
: truthful, but keep my right to privacy *and* avoid hurting the guy's
: feelings unnecessarily (after all, i still may pick him as the person i
: want to get seriously  involved with). 

That's unneccessarily evasive (as well as overly wimpy) and only leads to 
further misunderstandings anyway. BE DIRECT. 

:   if i haven't yet had sex with a man, i don't see that he has any 
: *right* to know i'm dating someone else.
 
If I care at all it'd remind me to add "condoms" to my grocery list, 
and to understand that I might not have "the field" all to myself. 
(Neither of which bothers me a bit, by the way.)

:   i'm curious if you think that he does....and if you apply the same
: standards to yourself and male friends that you are applying to women.

I, for one, apply the same standards to women as to men, and to gays/bis
as to straights: sex is great fun and everyone should do it often.

Any questions?


TheDavid(TM)

-- 
i practice philosophy only in self-defense
I PRACTICE PHILOSOPHY ONLY IN SELF-DEFENSE
           (--Gordon Fitch, 11 Jan. 1996)