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Mwkirk@Mindspring.com (Mike W. Kirkpatrick) wrote:
>>On 4 Oct 1995, Natasha Filipovic wrote:
>> No, Men *love* being treated like shit.  I've done some truly mean
>> things to men, and they still relentlessly kept on in their pursuit
>>for months, even years.  
>>
>I am a man and I would have to say this statement is very sad but true.  Men 
>seem to want to go through a little turmoil to get what they want.
>
>But women are very misleading at times....  A man hears one thing but the 
>woman is usually saying something different.  I guess it is a matter of the 
>point of view.  
>
Mike, 
I don't think that women are intentionally misleading, but I agree that 
communication is a problem.  I dated a guy for several years and it was 
not unusual for me to say something and him to hear something else. For 
example:  I would be upset about something at work and would just want to 
talk it out.  He would think that I wanted advice and would get upset 
when I didn't take his advice.  He couldn't understand that I mostly 
wanted to vent, and that I had already decided how to take care of the 
problem (if I hadn't already taken care of it.)

IMO, and I'm generalizing here, men want to take care of the woman, 
whether she needs to be taken care of or not, and part of that is solving 
her problems.  I think that this is admirable, however, I wished that he 
would wait until I asked for help before jumping in and giving it.

I know that this works the other way too.  He would ask me if I liked 
doing something, and I would respond "yes".  What he was really asking 
was 'did I want to do that now' and I didn't always.

IMO, women and men mean different things even though they use the same 
words, and this causes problems.  

Generalizations and My Opinion Only
Terri