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:::From: jgreen@trumpet.aix.calpoly.edu (James T. Green)

>Sandy <sgrabhor@cymbal.aix.calpoly.edu> wrote:
>jgreen@trumpet.aix.calpoly.edu commented:
>
>>* Says, "I don't have time to go out."
>>  - Then you hear she somewhere with someone else at the time she told 
>>you she was "busy."
>
>Ummmmm...let me see if I understand this one...she said she was "busy"
>(and therefore unavailable to go out with you) and was seen out with
>someone else.  Sounds like she was busy to me.  Your point? 

:::I was refering to a women who SAYS she's "busy" due to something like
:::homework, business, "too tired to go out" or some other non-dating
:::reason. Then she goes out with someone else.  The point is that said
:::hypothetical person is not being honest with me. She won't say she's
got :::another date and instead makes up a story.  

would you really, truly be comfortable with a women saying, 'sorry but i
have a date with another guy"?    if she said this, would you ask her out
again?    (i.e., are you willing to date a woman who is also dating
another man?   i'm talking about the initial stages of dating, before
there is any sex or commitment.)  i think  most women fear that the answer
for most men to these questions would be 'NO.'      

and how about you, do you tell women you're dating about how you've also
been out on a date with another woman?  

and why do i get the feeling that if a woman *did* tell you that she was
out on a date with another man,, that you'd say *that* was a head game,
too -- i.e., she's trying to make you jealous! 

now i agree that an outright lie is no good.  personally, i will say that
i'm 'busy' or 'have plans' or am 'seeing a friend' -- all of which are
truthful, but keep my right to privacy *and* avoid hurting the guy's
feelings unnecessarily (after all, i still may pick him as the person i
want to get seriously  involved with).    if i haven't yet had sex with a
man, i don't see that he has any *right* to know i'm dating someone else. 
  i'm curious if you think that he does....and if you apply the same
standards to yourself and male friends that you are applying to women.