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Katharine A Harrison <kaharris@mtholyoke.edu> wrote:
 
> > Katharine A Harrison <kaharris@mtholyoke.edu> writes:
> > >I am a college student ... I have found myself someone but quite by 
> > >accident and I didn't have to try.
> > 
> > Gee, you met someone roughly the same age with roughly the same interests,
> > education level, intelligence level who isn't already married or involved... 
> > IN COLLEGE?   What *are* the odds of *that* happening?

> no he is not my age, same interests by accident, finished high school but 
> no college, and already has a profitable career, very intelligent, and no 
> not involved.  There are great odds if you can wait.  If you want someone 
> now then maybe you should follow one of those dating services.  

Now come on, I don't see anything wrong with taking action to maximize
the possibility of something you want to happen.  I wouldn't recommend
dating services as they appear to be a ripoff.  But personals ads seem
to work for a lot of people at a low cost and it seems logical and direct.
I personally could never get over the initial discomfort of that first meeting
that's almost like an interview.  But then I've never tried it and it
seems most logical for those whose lifestyle doesn't make it easy to
meet a lot of single people (And there's nothing wrong with preferring
solitary hobbies to belonging to clubs).

And Katharine you must remember that your situation is different from
that of people much older than you.  As age increases so does the
proportion of the population which is married or otherwise involved
making the odds very low indeed in some areas.  So why
not facilitate those 'chance' meetings with an ad in publication or on
the Net? (No need to waste money on 900 spammers)

Other ways to make that 'chance' meeting more likely to happen is to
make choices that increase the number of people you encounter in an
average week.  This can be joining groups or just taking the time to
go down to the street fairs, reading at a cafe rather than at home,
A lot of companies ask for volunteers to help with tradeshows, picnics,
and other events.  There are also a lot of one-time volunteer opportu-
nities in the community listed through work.  In my book even stopping 
for a beer after work is a good idea.  After all bars near work sites at
that hour are populated with other professionals not low-lifes. For 
some people this may be more palatable than the personals adds and to
others less, but I want to say once and for all:

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH TAKING A PROACTIVE APPROACH AND GOING FOR
WHAT YOU WANT!  (As long as you don't go overboard)

Aqua