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In article <43kmf5$12m3@msunews.cl.msu.edu> davec@math.msu.edu (David Czarnecki) writes:
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>Bottom line -- I'd be very wary of dating services.  I have yet to hear a
>non-horror story about them.
 
I might as well give my take on dating services.  

Dating service prey on the individual that believes that there must be
simple solution to finding romance.  This individual may have tried bars,
newspaper ads, and other singles "clubs".  For whatever reason, they may
have been unsuccessful at finding the love of their life when using these
other "solutions".  Typically, at this point the individual blames the
bar scene, or the use of personal ads (note the frequent use of the
"there are no XXX here" tactic).

Now comes along a dating service that promises to find them a match and has 
all these potential candidates.  The individual shells out the bigs bucks 
and then expects that the dating service it going to provide them with a person that will give them love and true happiness.  

Unfortunately, the underlying problem about why this individual has been
unsuccessful may lie not with the the solutions they tried in the past but
perhaps some inherent lack of social skill that potential mates are finding
disagreeable.  It doesn't matter how much money the individual spends on
the dating service or how many potential "matches" it provides.  Whatever
it is that has made it difficult to "make that match" in the past is still
present.  

Rather than look for a "solution" to their problem finding love and true
happiness with that "special person" perhaps the individual would be better
off improving themselves and how they interact with people.  Work on what
you can do to make yourself more desirable and more pleasant to be around.  
Even it takes awhile for someone to come along to recognize those qualities
that make you so endearing you'll find that even non-romantic encounters
will be more frequent.  You'll find that more opportunities will come your
way as a side effect of just becoming a person that people just enjoy being
around.  

Stop looking for "solutions" to the dating problem.  Just get out and meet
people.  Learn from your mistakes and don't take rejection personally but
use the experience to improve your interraction with the next person that
you meet.  

Good luck.

-- 
John Fereira
fereira@isis.com
Isis Distributed Systems - Ithaca, NY