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In article <19971013152216.24568.qmail@nym.alias.net>, Scott A.Renner <sar@nym.alias.net> writes:

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_]2. There's a typo that makes this question hard to answer as written.  But
_]   I'll try.  Yes, because PKers *are* taking the leadership role in the
_]   household.  No, because that role does not mean what you think.
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_]PK critics consistently misunderstand the meaning of "authority" and
_]"leadership" in the Christian context.  Look at Matthew 20:25-28 to see
_]what I'm talking about:
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_]    Jesus called them together and said, "You know that the rulers of the
_]    Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority
_]    over them.  Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great
_]    among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be
_]    your slave-- just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to
_]    serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many."
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_]    Christian authority and leadership are about service, not domination.

 That's an excellent summary of the root misunderstanding, but not an easy
distinction to communicate. If you are thinking in individualistic terms
which is the way most North Americans are raised to think)
then it really is win/lose : either one partner dominates, or the other does.
The model you are describing is that both partners are submitting their
wills to a higher authority, something most people have not experienced. 

 I also think that compromise on issues of major principle is not a 
viable way to make a family work. If one of the partners (be it the
man or the woman) believes that he/she has a clearer vision at a particular
time of what is essential and that his/her partner is confused, then it is
failing in responsibility not to press for what is right.