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In <620v2h$ojc@nnrp1.farm.idt.net> "John Dyson" <jrdyson@pipeline.com>
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>Carol Ann Hemingway wrote in message
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>>In <61ukb6$hro@nnrp3.farm.idt.net> "John Dyson"
<jrdyson@pipeline.com>
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>>            Knowing, first hand, the pain divorce can bring, I would
>>            have a hard time accepting that most people bail at the
>>            first sign of stress.
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>Well, it may be a 'generational' thing, too.  Most of the people with
whom I>work, that have been divorced...the majority were married for
relatively>short periods of time--from 1 to 4 years.  And, for the most
part, these>marriages were disovled for the stupidest reasons, or
because one of the>partners decided he/she didn't want to try to fix a
problem....one that I,>from the outside, thought was rather simple to
fix--but would just take a>little WORK.  Something that a LOT of the
younger couples simply don't want>to give.

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            That may be.  If there are no children involved, perhaps
            it is better to discover early that marriage isn't good
            for everyone.
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>I know the "pain of divorce," too...and I feel I know from where I
speak.>Of course, I'm not a PhD in mariage or anything...but I do see
things around>me.
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>>           Making it expensive will only
>>           subject folks to not get on with life, and endure more
>>           problems than getting it done.  Premarital counseling
>>           is probably most important.
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>Hmmm...I dunno.  I'm not 'sold' on this whole 'counceling' thing.  It
seems odd that life went on, mostly happily, for thousands of years
without professional 'councelors' to tell everybody what they're
feeling.  I'm not>so sure that I put much stock into that notion.

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            Whatever makes you think those couples were HAPPY?   Women
            were unable to divorce in marriages where they couldn't
            find work outside the home.  Our divorce rate isn't just
            because divorce is easy, but because women are able to make
            choices other than marriage.  Back in what you might call
            "the good old days" women who were beaten regularly in
            marriage might have found that more acceptable than leaving
            their children and starving to death.  Because women have
            more options there are bound to be more divorces.
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>>           Also, I think we have to
>>            recognize that some folks are simply not cut out for
>>            marriage.
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>Now, THAT I agree with.

            Lefty