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Carol Ann Hemingway wrote:

> In <620v2h$ojc@nnrp1.farm.idt.net> "John Dyson" <jrdyson@pipeline.com>
> writes:
> >Carol Ann Hemingway wrote in message
> <61uo09$360@sjx-ixn4.ix.netcom.com>...
> >>In <61ukb6$hro@nnrp3.farm.idt.net> "John Dyson"
> <jrdyson@pipeline.com>
> >>writes:
> >>            --------
> >>            Knowing, first hand, the pain divorce can bring, I would
> >>            have a hard time accepting that most people bail at the
> >>            first sign of stress.
> >
> >Well, it may be a 'generational' thing, too.  Most of the people with
> whom I>work, that have been divorced...the majority were married for
> relatively>short periods of time--from 1 to 4 years.  And, for the most
> part, these>marriages were disovled for the stupidest reasons, or
> because one of the>partners decided he/she didn't want to try to fix a
> problem....one that I,>from the outside, thought was rather simple to
> fix--but would just take a>little WORK.  Something that a LOT of the
> younger couples simply don't want>to give.
>
>             -----------
>             That may be.  If there are no children involved, perhaps
>             it is better to discover early that marriage isn't good
>             for everyone.

Perhaps, teahc our children thedifference between love and lust?

> >I know the "pain of divorce," too...and I feel I know from where I
> speak.>Of course, I'm not a PhD in mariage or anything...but I do see
> things around>me.
> >
> >>           Making it expensive will only
> >>           subject folks to not get on with life, and endure more
> >>           problems than getting it done.  Premarital counseling
> >>           is probably most important.
> >
> >Hmmm...I dunno.  I'm not 'sold' on this whole 'counceling' thing.  It
> seems odd that life went on, mostly happily, for thousands of years
> without professional 'councelors' to tell everybody what they're
> feeling.  I'm not>so sure that I put much stock into that notion.

I'm sold on it.  The counseling may take the placeof a culture that has so
come to endorse divorce,
that it has lightened it's opinion of marriage as well.

>             ---------
>             Whatever makes you think those couples were HAPPY?   Women
>             were unable to divorce in marriages where they couldn't
>             find work outside the home.  Our divorce rate isn't just
>             because divorce is easy, but because women are able to make
>             choices other than marriage.  Back in what you might call
>             "the good old days" women who were beaten regularly in
>             marriage might have found that more acceptable than leaving
>             their children and starving to death.  Because women have
>             more options there are bound to be more divorces.
>             ------------------------------------------------

Or, as well, because society has endorsedgetting out as equivalent to
working it out.

> >>           Also, I think we have to
> >>            recognize that some folks are simply not cut out for
> >>            marriage.
> >
> >Now, THAT I agree with.
>
>             Lefty

 Me, too.

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