🚀 go-pugleaf

hes@unity.ncsu.edu (Henry E. Schaffer) writes:

#  Maybe - do take her to the range.  Perhaps she can see the plain
#enjoyment of shooting/plinking if she tries.  Make some analogies
#between a security alarm and locking the house or car - see if she
#can connect up what *she* considers sensible security precautions
#with what you are doing.  Be calm, rational and throw back her own
#reasons at her - is she saying that one is more free is one lets
#burglars have easy access to one's home?

	While this tactic generally, in my experience, does not work
when faced with what we've termed "women's logic," an initial
confrontation followed by a few days of respite have been known to
work.  My own girlfriend and I have done this a few times.

	We're both what might be described as slobs.  One such
confrontation revolved around setting stuff on chairs and things
where people might wish to sit down.  She had placed a piece of
plate glass, wrapped in a towel, on a chair.  I sat on it.  I
broke the thing.  Her logic was that I should look at where I sit.
My logic was that it had no business there, and if you set something
on a chair it will be sat upon.  The next day, I gathered all the
sewing needles I found in the carpet, on the chairs, on the tables,
and the like and hammered them into the bedroom door at just above
eye level and walked around wearing safety glasses.  She got the
point of the demonstration.

	Perhaps such a demonstration need be made again?  When you
drive somewhere, leave the windows open and then lock the doors
of the car.  Make it a point to unbuckle your seat belt after you
are 2.3 miles from home, or wherever most accidents happen.  If
you ride a motorcycle, put on a helmet and then ride off wearing
a t-shirt, shorts, and thongs (by all means have a cache of leathers
hidden in your saddlebags!).  Chances are she'll be agast at this
complete disregard for safety.  Then, make your point.

	Being a motorcycle rider of some twenty years, I have noticed
that, like guns, the motorcycle is to blame, not the rider or the
idiot driver that runs into him.  Use this.  When she's driving,
take the opportunity to point out every motorcycle to her.  Also
point out good escape routes should the truck ahead of her be involved
in an accident.  Yes, this will annoy the bejeebers out of her.  In
time, she'll understand that her safety is dependent solely upon
herself, and hopefully thank you for the experience.  Or she may
dump you as some sort of psuedo-Rambo.  It's hard to tell.

	Just some things that have worked in the past.

< Dan Sorenson, DoD #1066 z1dan@exnet.iastate.edu viking@iastate.edu >
<  ISU only censors what I read, not what I say.  Don't blame them.  >
<     USENET: Post to exotic, distant machines.  Meet exciting,      >
<                 unusual people.  And flame them.                   >