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alternat@watserv1.waterloo.edu (Ann Hodgins) writes:
>In article <5869@crash.cts.com> rcf@pnet01.cts.com (Bob Forsythe) writes:
>>
>>     No relational arrangement is more "sane" than any other.  It all depends
>>on what best suits your particular belief system. ... 
>Every other commune in the 60's had a copy of
>>"Stranger in a Strange Land" that they took their living arrangements from. 
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>My own beliefs about humans and monogamy are the result of coming of age in
>the 60s.  Many people then truly believed that they could simply shed their
>'hangups' and by following their hearts could have many happy and free sexual
>relationships with a variety of men and women.
>The consequences of this were tragicommic.  People tried not to feel emotions
>like jealousy but did anyway.  Eventually, the 'laid back' hippies
>would lose their self-control and erupt into screaming and fisticuffs. 
> 
>After watching these scenarios unfold for a while and after much soul
>searching I decided that the so called 'hang ups' were a basic part of
>human nature and something we have to face and accomodate.
>

     Indeed.  I saw it happen more than a few times myself.  I think what it
comes down to in the end is that we have to recogize what parts of us we're
willing to change, and which we aren't and go from there.  By the same token,
we have to accept that in others as well.  There are people who can live with
multiple relationships and there are those that can't.  Allowing our ego to
assume that one way is better than the other only gets us into trouble,
because we try to "rescue" them from their "hangups".  I think it's better to
accept who we are, and what we can live with, and make choices based upon
that.  

>ann hodgins


Bob c/o The OTH Gang
rcf@pnet01.cts.com