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Matthew William Damick wrote:
> 
>  My
> fiancee and I started dating by determining where we both stand on
> everything that mattered about faith and belief and principle.  We
> settled such things about what meaning we attach to things like the wife
> taking the husband's name for the get-go.  We determined and settled
> those things immediately.  Both of us are pretty set-in-our ways people.
> neither of us expects a change from what we've told each other (it's
> wonderful how consistency helps a relationship!).  Any change, including
> her refusing to take my name would make me question why she's made a
> fairly big shift b/c of the meaning attached to doing that.

You talked about whether she would take your name not before you started
dating? Excuse me, but that seems a bit premature to me. Suppose you
hadn't discussed that particular issue before you started dating.
Suppose you had dated and then after you asked her to marry you she had
said, "I will, except I don't want to be named Damick". Even if you felt
her reasons were frivolous, would you have broken up with her over
something as trivial (IMO) as that?

Just wondering
Ken