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Ken Denny wrote in message <359926B5.881@nortel.com>...

>You talked about whether she would take your name not before you
started
>dating? Excuse me, but that seems a bit premature to me. Suppose you
>hadn't discussed that particular issue before you started dating.
>Suppose you had dated and then after you asked her to marry you she
had
>said, "I will, except I don't want to be named Damick". Even if you
felt
>her reasons were frivolous, would you have broken up with her over
>something as trivial (IMO) as that?
>
I suspect that this is an artifact of a more mobile society.  In the
old days, you typically married someone you knew since childhood.
Heck, I've known my wife since kindergarten.  Her dad owned the lumber
yard, and my dad was one of his best customers.

I suspect strongly that if a study was done on divorce, that it would
show a correlation between the length of time a couple knew each other
prior to marriage and marital success.  The longer "courtship" period
gives both people time to recognize the plusses and minuses of the
other, their beliefs and how they react to different situations.

If I were in charge of the world, I would require that couples live
together for at least three years before being permitted to marry AND
that they live as married people for another three before being
permitted to have offspring.

Tom Gauldin, Raleigh NC
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