🚀 go-pugleaf

yasu@ll.mit.edu (Alan Yasutovich) writes:
> In article <1993May17.160440.2591@ve6mgs.ampr.org> mark@ve6mgs.ampr.org (Mark
> >yasu@ll.mit.edu (Alan Yasutovich) writes:
> >
> >>	When are people going to live within their own economic
> >>	means, rather than always looking for cash-cows?
> >
> >Exqueeze me, but when there are kids involved, why are you indicating that
> >the mother has to pay to look after them and the father can just `walk-away'
> >
> >Sure, a Divorce implies that both parties have decided to throw away a
> >relationship, but `their' kids must be cared for. As a `never divorced'
> >parent, I can assure you I pay more in `child' support than *any*
> >divorced father does when enforced or otherwise. These are MY children,
> >and I have NO problem with it.
> >
> >>	My ex needs to look up that definition.  And my income, and
> >>	my money are none of her, or anybody elses business anymore!
> >
> >Did you have any children? or are you simply being harassed by your Ex?
> >
Mark,

In case you've missed some of Alan's more "poignant" posts, the son that he
had by his first wife he sometimes refers to as his "ex kid."
                                                             
>       I have one.  That's why I'm here.
> 
> 	In case you missed my story, I didn't see either of them
> 	for 10 years.  Then, 7 years into my next marriage
> 	and one new baby, they barge in.  THis, after being
> 	shunned, told to take a walk, and leave them alone.
> 
> 	this kid doesn't even go by his real last name; MINE.
> 
> 	And he wants "birthrights"?
> 
Alan,

I think it very sad that you apparently hold your own child son responsible
for his mother's actions/decisions.  Her influence seems apparent and thus your
son continues to be victimized by both her bitterness and your own.

> 	That's why the "cash-cow" thing.  Maybe I'm coming
> 	from a different direction.  But things/people STILL
> 	pop out from the woodwork.
> 
> 	Don't people have a right to know exactly what is
> 	expected from them so they can plan accordingly?

As you well know, our children see their father at least every two weeks and
when possible, more often than that.  No one is "popping out of the woodwork"
here.  In fact, it was my ex who initiated our current court proceedings!
Mark makes an astute observation in pointing out the inequities of a
custodial parent having to be 100% financially responsible for their
children after divorce...only difference is, my ex didn't walk away from his
kids, only from his parental responsibilities for them.

Anyway, as my dear father has pointed out, your comments in this thread have
nothing to do with the FMEP (in my case, at least) nor with anything related
to my original post.  I didn't ask my ex for copies of those garnisheed
chequestubs -- I didn't even know they existed!  I did ask the FMEP about them
(once my ex's attorney presented them to me) and subsequently, about when
those funds were returned, which they refused to divulge.

Jeesh!

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Lisa Lambeth                             lisa@oneb2.almanac.bc.ca
Nanaimo, B.C.
Canada                                   NEXT?