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Fausto <skizm@erols.com> wrote in article
<57kuf0$rlu@boursy.news.erols.com>...
> Well I am not exactly short short...I am about 5 9" slender 155lbs.

> Believe it or not I am even considerd goodlooking, but I think I
turn 
> women off with my shyness. I am just to introverted for most women,
they 
> think I have know interest in them because I dont chase them. But I
just 
> cant do that, it just isnt in me, I guess because I have attentin
defecit 
> disorder, which is the inability to focus for long periods, for me
I just 
> get bored to quickly and cant focus on my date except when it comes
to 
> sex. Sex seems to cure my ADD until sex is complete. 

First I need to say that I feel badly for anyone suffering from ADD,
but you must see that if you only have "eyes" for a women when you
are having sex with her and then nothing after that, well, it's bound
to cause hurt and angry feelings.  I would think that no matter how
bad your ADD is, if you found a women you were truly interested in,
you would be able to focus on her longer than it takes for your to
have sex.  I can't say "make love", because without an emotional
bond, you are only having sex.  

Anyway women simply 
> have no patience for me because I have no patience for focusing on
them. 
> So if you are short fat and ugly...dont feel to bad, we all have
our own 
> unique problems. Although I love the ladies and and like doing 
> adventurous things like Rockclimbing, biking and other oudoor
activities, 
> once a woman senses my inability to focus on her she immediatly
seems to 
> feel rejected by me so she will in turn reject me. A very confusing
and 
> awkward situation developes. 
> 
Try looking at it from their point of view.  How much patience would
you have with a woman who say, only pays attention to you when you
are buying them something.  Perhaps their ADD is limited to focusing
only when someone is interacting with them and money.  Don't you
think you would feel a little bit used?  

I would suggest getting some serious help for your ADD and also
perhaps looking into other types of help.  You may be using ADD as an
excuse not to have more meaningful relationships.  In this case I
honestly don't think that most of the problem is because the women
don't have patience with you.  If you can focus on my long enough to
have sex with me, then you had better be able to focus on me enough
to get to know me.  Can you read a book, or see a movie?  Can you
converse with friends?  If you can do things like this, than you can
certainly take the time to get to know a woman. 

You say you beome bored too quickly.  That's something you and she
can discuss and find OTHER ways to relieve your boredom.  Again, I'm
sure you don't spend all day long being bored with your friends. 
First remember that women are people and you can have a woman as a
friend.  You can do things with her just as you would with your male
companions.   Perhaps if you could quit thinking of her as a sexual
object and more as a person, you would be able to focus on her and
not just her sex.


-- 
LadyHawke


"Don't quit five minutes before the miracle happens"