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Article #220Re: BEING FAT and/or SHORT
From: Jim
Date: Tue, 03 Dec 1996 00:00
Date: Tue, 03 Dec 1996 00:00
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>My question for all you single guys out ther is simple----what is the
>deal with not calling after saying you will?? Women prefer honesty and
>would rather not hear things such as "I'll call you" "I'll be in
>touch" etc unless you really mean it.
In my case, I will often intend to stay in touch with someone and I
will say thah I plan to call because I really do. Say, she seems
reasonably nice, bright, good values. The chemistry might not be so great
that I feel totally drawn to her; yet at the same time I know that I
sometimes am more attracted to some people only after I know them a little
bit more. So my intention upon departing is to hopefully see her at least
once more, maybe a spark will ignite--and even if not, maybe we can be
friends.
But the events that would have led me to call her just don't
happen--or maybe too much else goes on. And so I never call simply
because it sort of slips my mind.
This is the one time when, it would not be a bad idea for the woman
to make a minimum effort to stay in touch--a Christmas card, for example.
This is not to say that the onus is not on me, but simply from a strategic
standpoint, this is one time where the woman has more to gain than lose by
making the effort herself to communicate. Not to harrass the guy for not
calling; not to troll for a date; but simply to telegraph the fact (if
true) that the fact that I have not called has not particularly soured her
on me.
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